She took a breath and said, “It’s Stage 4 Ovarian Cancer.” There is no right way to hear those words. This is what it is to be human. To love deeply. And to hurt deeply. I cannot have one without the other. This is what happens in suffering. Our love mixes with pain and we must learn to carry them both. It is a heavy load. How do we carry heavy loads? (Spoiler alert: we don’t.)